Being a #mom is amazing, but sometimes it can feel like your own #deamsandgoals in life get put on the back burner. Have you ever felt like this? If you said,”YES”!!! Then I’m here to hug you and tell you – I feel you sister. I’m also going to pass you some wine #becausefriendsdrinktogether I’m also going to tell you that nobody puts baby in a corner #namethatmovie If I’m being raw & honest this mom has felt some pretty low lows (you can read my post here about mom burnout) when it comes to “finding purpose” beyond keeping my kids alive and my husband happy. I enjoy my #sahm freedom and LOVE that I can be home with my children; but a few years ago I screamed inside for “something”. Maybe some type of “hobby/outlet”…something, anything!! What that was exactly? Well, I honestly had no clue; I had some passions and some talents, but I just couldn’t put my finger on it. I was searching for something that I felt would quiet that voice inside. And sometimes it felt wrong to even think about wanting more because I was fully aware of how blessed I was the have the freedom to stay at home when so many of my friends were only dreaming of being able to do that. I KNEW I had an amazing gift… So why feel dirty for wanting more? I’m sure there is a book somewhere detailing the psychology behind this but the quote that comes to my mind is one that my 5 year old constantly tells me “You get what you get and you don’t throw a fit”. That is an idea that honestly has been ingrained in my head since I’ve been young. Be content with your situation especially if it is a good one. Make the best out of it. So for me as a mom who “had the life” why feel so guilty about needing something? My husband and I were great, stronger then ever actually, my kids were healthy, happy and thriving so what was this feeling and why am I trying to silence it? Why do moms do this to themselves???
I decided to head down the entrepreneur life to fill my void. I started with photography career and LOVED it. But my priorities shifted and not in a good way. Being an entrepreneur felt like I had to choose between life (kids especially) and “building this empire”. It was overwhelming to say the least. I was not showering, eating and now my kids looked homeless plus they had to beg me to get off my computer to come and get them lunch or play with them. It was getting ridiculous. They would come in my work area and ask me random things; and I realized they simply wanted my attention. The house fell to shambles and I felt like I had to put my “something” on hold. It crushed my creative spirit and my self esteem. I LOVED photography, but as a business it wasn’t the right fit for me. I know that now, but at the time I felt like a piece of me died the moment I decided to walk away. The cost for me and my family did not match the “reward” and so I went back to the ol’ routine. But having had a taste of that “something more” my soul yearned even more!! I got to experience the fulfillment that came from being an entrepreneur, from having something of my own and that I could feel good about doing because it contributed something back to my family. I missed it. #thestruggle
During the time I was “building my empire” I became friends with other mom photographers within a facebook community we all shared. We all kept in touch, even though we had never met in real life, we all bonded over the fact that we were all just moms trying to make it. It wasn’t just me going through the struggles of walking away from their business. Frustrations were high within the community and what seemed like overnight the talk of Young Living began to spread. After realizing what in the heck Young Living was, and more so what essential oils were, I began to ask a lot of questions. The entire community was a-buzz with talk of this company and I was so curious as to the why behind it. Well needless to say I ended up getting their starter kit. To be completely transparent – I was basically a teenager… my photography friends were all using them and I felt like the community was shifting and I didn’t want to be left out. I guess you could say peer pressure got the best of me; in a good way! People that I trusted were using and loving them and I was still looking for that “something” to belong to. I did get the kit with the hopes to help my son with emotional support and the results I experienced were what really propelled me forward to where I am today.
After using oils and having fun with the kids being “mad scientists” making our potions, I quickly learned that I had a passion for learning about essential oils and sharing how I use them. People listen, if you knew the me that was 3 years ago you would have laughed until tears ran down your cheeks at the thought of me even knowing what an essential oil was let alone using it! It was insane though the more I learned the more my friends and family HAD to know about them!!! Before I knew it my passion was being filled and it was so organic I didn’t even notice it happening. I was slowly building a team of essential oil users filled with all of my closest friends and family. They looked to me to simply share my knowledge and that is what I did. From that moment I found a passion in a place that started with a serious case of FOMO (fear of missing out) and ended up being a true love of mine. Who would have known? Certainly not me. This journey started with just a mom searching for that something extra and now is leading a team of over 12 hundred families. I never would have imagined I’d be where I am today. NEVER. I have a supportive community that cheers me on and fills my purpose cup until it overflows. I am able to love on my babes, go on dates with my husband and still do it all on a time frame that contours to me and my lifestyle. I call that being a mompreneur (mom + entrepreneur) at its finest. So my question to you is what is your mompreneur dream? I definitely want to hear it in the comments below.